Between a Dom and a hard spot

Ok so I as I said my kinky side is an important side of my life. The first real Dom i served is someone who I hold close to my heart since he was not only my first Dom but my first time bottoming and being a "slave". He is a good guy loves feeding into my fantasies and I love feeding into his. We have only been together twice due to distance. Now that I am in school in NYC it has made the distance further. I love NYC so much and feel like I belong here, I really love the atmosphere and everything about except I feel very isolated.  My program is great and I have made friends but it is still lonely. I keep trying to date but it feels like each time I make plans they fall through. And these are regular date nothing kinky about them. So that has me frustrated. And then I talk to my Dom and he makes me feel happy and safe, he's in control and I have rules and structure which I yearn for, but He's about 300 miles away from me. He said tonight that he would love for us to get a place together and be Master and slave and then boyfriends 2nd, which I would be ok with. But I want to stay in NYC and he doesn't want to be here. So now I'm struggling with the idea of after graduation do I stay in the city which was my plan all along, or do I move back upstate, where my family, and friends are and my Dom. He seems like he would move closer to my home if it were in Upstate NY. But I sold my car and am planning on staying down here and hoping to find a group of friends. He seems to want us together his relationships also aren't panning out. We both feel like a good fit but our life goals and finances are keeping us apart. What to do? I have no idea, I wish there was a way to know the best result. I mean what do I sacrifice? Do I sacrafice my dream of being in NYC and feeling lonely or do I move back to my home town where I have my friends and family and maybe my Dom again. I miss him so much, and yes it's not a a typical relationship but we both love it and all of the kinks it comes with. So as I said between my Dom and a hard (no pun intended) spot.